Yep…and there’s reason for that. This comment not directed at you personally. The reason is that these are coaching decisions. Coaches are the ones who spend an inordinate amount of time with these players, and who are in practice with them everyday. And when I say “coaches” I’m talking about an entire staff, which would be, in our case, Saddi, H, Phil Martelli, Chris Hunter, Jay Smith, the “Sandman,” and of course, head coach, Juwan Howard. It also includes the training staff and the docs in certain situations. In fact, pretty much everyone affiliated with the program. To be painfully honest, I don’t believe random fans or posters on a message board have a whole lot, really anything, to add of substance in terms of expertise or knowledge to these coaching decisions. So, I am sure the athletic secretary or receptionist is not inclined or instructed by the AD, to put those calls through to the head coach. This is what I believe. You and others perhaps don’t. Or, maybe you were just being funny as I’m pretty sure you’ve never called the basketball office to complain to Juwan about Jace’s playing time.
OK, here’s where some of you may want to exit this comment (essay) because I’m going to talk about my philosophy and my policy on this. So, anyone still reading, fair warning, here’s your time to get out. And, seriously, this one has become inordinately long, even for me. And if there are mistakes or “typos” please forgive me. It’s been proofread several times, but I’ve just got to get to the gym, so this is it!
Here’s my policy. I typically, though sadly not always, tend to write comments on message boards or other social “media” platforms that I would actually say if I were talking to the person directly, face to face. I have written a few messages on message boards that I have “trash canned” before posting because, after reading them a few times, I’ve decided it just wasn’t a good idea to hit “send” or “post.” I wrote one of those last night. This is a fairly high standard, I know, and because I’m far from perfect I fall down in my attempts to live up to my own standard. Sometimes I even question my own integrity. If I believe something but I make a comment that violates my belief, am I, therefore, acting without integrity in that case? Integrity is important to me, and cause for much thought. The point is, I do try and I do think about these things most always before I post them.
Please know I am a relatively old man who did not grow up with social “media.” I know, too, that we live in a world where, it seems, everyone has an opinion, AND that through these various social “media” platforms we feel entitled (and we are, First Amendment, after all), and even encouraged, and oftentimes emboldened, to express those opinions. Expressing opinions on a message board is an easy thing to do. Anyone can do it! Sometimes we don’t think that opinion through before we express it “publicly.” I am trying (I really am) to learn to live in a world where “everyone is an expert” or thinks he is, but I know, in many cases, those folk don’t truly have the knowledge or the expertise of the people who are actually charged with making the decisions have. You know, “where the buck stops.”
That last comment was not meant to be offensive to anyone on this board. In fact this is probably the most “intelligent” board (can boards be intelligent? Well, the people certainly can be) that I’ve ever been associated with…by far. The ability of people on here to do research, to put words together in a coherent and understandable way, is pretty unusual as social “media” goes. I’m amazed by some of it, and of course the content provided by Dylan is second to none, in my experience. That’s an opinion I think we all share, especially the Dylan part. And, I’m sure most of the “players” on here have great expertise in their own chosen field, their profession or occupation. I will say this, I’m guessing most of them don’t want to be second guessed, or actually criticized by people who don’t have their level of expertise, or who have, perhaps, never done what they do…professionally. That’s just another thought I keep in mind when I’m posting. Do I know as much as I think I do?!?
Here’s a case in point. Though I have had a fair amount of physical therapy, both of my shoulders and my lower back, and have worked with several PTs I look to @Petere1588 for knowledge and expertise about our players who have suffered physical injuries, and I would never criticize his opinion about those injuries or the rehab process and recovery from them. I would apply the same standard to our umhoops lawyers or doctors or accountants, and certainly to our HVAC techs or automobile techs, or the computer wizards on this board. As for lawyers and PTs, my our daughter is a former child welfare attorney who has also worked as a law professor and a national child welfare advocate. Cureently she’s working for the Anne E. Casey Foundation in her dream job. I will usually defer to her on legal questions, though she will often tell me that the law is so broad and deep that my question is not within her area of expertise. A former student and golfer I taught and coached is both a DPT and an MD in Orthopedic Medicine. She’s a brilliant young lady and I could defer to her expert opinion, too, and I would but my ortho is a great guy who is often at his daughters’ house which is right next to mine, and he loves talking about such things. His only problem is he’s a Sparty. Well, so is my daughter, the lawyer. The DPT/MD is all Michigan which, well, really does make her a bit arrogant!
So, to all, forgive me if I seem a little more surly these days. The truth is, I HAVE become more surly as I read comments about our players who, in the eyes of some, just aren’t “good enough” to be at Michigan and therefore “should” transfer or “shouldn’t” have received a scholarship in the first place, and they are all talented, really talented, even though some question that fact. (I reference my post last night about where they would fit percentile wise when they came out of high school.)
When I’m thinking about our coaches and whether I may have a critical thought about decisions they’ve made, I always think to myself, “Do I have, even with all of my teaching and coaching experience, as much knowledge and expertise as these coaches, collectively or individually, about basketball in general, or coaching at THIS level, or about these kids and this team and the things that are worked on everyday in practice?” The answer is always, “No.” So, my next question is, "Should I write that critical comment “publicly,” on a message board? And that answer, for me, is, at least about OUR coaches and OUR “kids,” invariably, "NO, as well. And, yes, I do believe there are people at least associated with those kids, if not the kids themselves, who do read these message boards from time to time.
For me, then, as it relates to the message board, I have to decide that if I’m going to get upset or “surly” while reading comments, should I find a way to get over it, go to counseling, for instance, or should I just stay away, at least for a while? My wife who loves me and who knows there are other things in my life that are more important than a sports message board, like her and my precious granddaughter, the two most important people in my life, or working out at the gym (one of my addictions!), thinks I should just stay away. My son, the PhD in Psychology definitely thinks I drive myself crazy going on Michigan message boards, and therefore, for my own sanity and his moms, also thinks I should probably just stay away. Mind you, he does NOT want me to call him for counseling! My friend @Mattski, though, points out that this is a community, almost a family, that I enjoy being a part of. And he says other really nice things, too, mostly because he likes me, and we certainly have a mutual respect and similar philosophies of life, but those conversations are between Matt and me. And though Matt has taken a sort of “leave of absence” from the board, just for a while, we still communicate telephonically and via email.
So, for those who have stayed with me here to the, I’m sure, painful end of this baring of my soul and heart, (thank you, @bobohle ) and my LONG discussion of my philosophies and those things that I probably overthink, thank you for your indulgence. As always, I know my philosophies and beliefs are mine and they are not necessarily yours. Some might agree with me and share some of them, while others don’t. And that is, of course, OK. Any struggles I may have with any differences of beliefs are my own problem.
Please know, though, that my philosophies and beliefs have been developed over 76 years of life, and some of them are rooted in different times, and oftentimes they are based on the ideas and lifestyles and philosophies of those who have been most influential in my life. In other words, they are based on my life experiences over those 76 years, but know that they continue to evolve. If ANYTHING I’ve said makes any sense to you at all, I hope you’ll think on those things. If not, throw it away, but again, thanks for reading. And NOW, with that, I’m off to the gym. Gotta stay alive and healthy for as long as I can for that sweet and precious little grand daughter of mine!