Some good topics in there…
Re: questionable calls leading to make-up calls… If I know I kicked a call, I will not consciously make a soft call at the other end to try to compensate. In 21 years, I have not consciously ever done that. I wouldn’t be surprised if it has subconsciously happened, because human nature can take over. I don’t recall that happening, but I guess if it were subconsciously driven, I wouldn’t have even been aware of it. The best thing to do when you know you kicked a call is to, when it’s convenient, let the coach and/or player know that you kicked it. The honesty is generally appreciated, and leads to a better relationship.
If you believe that one of your partners has butchered a play, that brings other things into question. Each official has an area of the court that they are responsible for working. There are specific mechanics in place for plays that begin in one area and move into another, as well as specific mechanics for plays at the rim. In general, if I am confident that one of my partners kicked a call, then I wasn’t paying enough attention to my own yard. You’ll notice things that look unusual that occur out of your area, but to be positive that a mistake was made requires complete focus on something that you shouldn’t have been watching that closely in the first place. If that’s what you were doing, then you don’t have full trust in your partners, which is inexcusable at high levels. We could go through a million examples, but the bottom line is that if you trust your partners the way you should, and stay focused on your yard, then you should never feel so certain that they kicked a call that you’d even consider some sort of make-up call.
A big discrepancy in team foul counts is fairly common. You should never create a foul out of thin air just to get a team foul or two on the board. If the foul count is 5-0, for example, don’t invent a foul just to make it 5-1. But, definitely do not miss the foul that would make it 5-1. This can obviously lead to the subconscious taking over, and calling something that you wouldn’t ordinarily call. I’m sure that happens, and I’m sure it’s happened to me. Personally, I don’t like it when the team foul counts are significantly different, but it usually makes sense based on the playing styles of the teams. For me, if a game is being played with equal aggression on both sides, it’s competitive, and I look up partway through the first half and see that the team fouls are even, then I’m thrilled. I wish it played out that way all the time, but it doesn’t, and shouldn’t, because every play is different. If we go in at halftime and the team counts are a lot different, we’ll ask ourselves whether we are missing things at one end.